Jewels of The Week (July 29-August 4)

Mind Your Business

“I’m so unbothered, I’m so unbothered

Y’all be so pressed while i’m raisin’ daughters

Sons of empires, y’all make me chuckle

Stay in your struggle, crystal blue water…”

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Even though Bey is extremely reclusive and private, I know she be on her burner accounts on Twitter and Instagram laughing at us everyday, I just know it. And even though I’m 100% certain she has the tea on everybody, she’s silent regardless because at the end of the day it’s none of her business. It’s nice to know what kind of people you could potentially be dealing with, but it stops there. You don’t see her in the tabloids talking about other people and their business, she barely talks about herself unless it’s through her music. Nobody knows her business because she’s protective of her personal life, as we all should be. She keeps it cute and keeps it mute. She doesn’t say a word about anything negative because why would she? What would be the point? Why insert yourself into pointless drama? She could get in her feelings everyday about what’s being said and be reactive like Cardi B and almost every other celebrity, doing and saying everything they can to prove themselves to the world and prove them wrong and clear the air, but that only makes matters worse. And it’s not productive. Like Madea said,

“Folks gonna talk about you ’til the day you die, and ain’t nothing you can do. Let folks talk! It ain’t about what they call you … it’s what you answer to.”

Doing stuff like that just screams “insecure”, because it shows you put stock in what random people care about you. If you were on your death bed, would you give a fuck? Ask yourself that every time you feel yourself getting riled up and offended by somebody. If you buckle and let yourself get out of character over every single person that challenges you and makes you feel like you have to prove something to them, you’ll never win in life nor will you ever know peace. There are people on the internet who get a rise out of trolling and pissing people off because their father abandoned them and their mother doesn’t give two shits about them, let them keep that energy to themselves. Misery loves company, but we are booked and busy beloved. Don’t let them infect you with that shit.

Twitter makes me laugh more than anything these days. Not because it’s actually funny, but because I’ve been on there for a decade and I know people like the back of my hand now. It’s like nothing fazes me. I’ve grown thicker skin from once having 15k followers and arguing with trolls almost everyday, going viral and having to see people’s irrelevant thoughts in my mentions often, getting into big arguments and Twitter drama, I’ve even had someone make an anonymous account to harass me from once, I actually felt so special that someone would do that for me. I was honored. I’ve been through and seen it all. ALL OF IT. When it comes to this social media shit, nobody is above me. There are people I respect and love but they still aren’t above me. I’ve completely grown out of the mindset where I feel obligated to go out of my way to prove things about myself to people for anything, because these strangers don’t matter. If we’re not having a fun, chill convo or having a serious discussion about working together, there’s nothing in that interaction for me. I’ve grown better at ignoring people who try to pull me into arguments and blocking people instead of impulsively reacting with words. Along with that, seeing the way people’s information is thrown around all loosey goosey in these internet streets has made me very cautious and private. I don’t believe in being vulnerable with the masses anymore, that’s a part of me reserved for those that have earned it and shown me that same side of them. I’m practicing the art of minding my business and living in my own little universe, and it’s peaceful as fuck. I encourage you to try it.


Vintage Black Beauty Ads

Shoutout to Shefon and Pinterest for making me even more obsessed with my two favorite things: beauty and Black women. There’s nothing I love more than old school Black beauty, I’ve always had a thing for classic Hollywood beauty looks and good picked out fro. I’ve alway been conflicted when it comes to wearing my natural hair out because for some reason my fro has always left me feelings somewhat masculine. But seeing Black women in whole ass advertisements encouraging other Black women to wear their hair in this state makes me feel a lot better because it lets me know that at one point, that was the beauty standard for us. And beauty trends and standards change and recycle so who’s to say a fluffed out, rounded fro won’t make a comeback? I also like a nice roller set on natural hair too, the fluffiness and volume you get is unmatched and not replicable with relaxed or already straightened hair. The versatility of natural hair is really a gift from god.


Things I Miss: GoT Memes

I still beat myself up to this day for taking so long to get into GoT, I didn’t watch seasons 1-7 in full until last November. I had tried to watch back when season 4-5 ended but I got sidetracked as always because I have a bit of a low attention span with tv shows. Once I stop, I forget about it completely. And the crazy part is I don’t do that because the show isn’t good, I really just be forgetting about shit. Season 8 of GoT was a huge let down but it didn’t stop me or any of the rest of the fandom from tuning in every Sunday night, it was a weekly event. I genuinely miss having that epic event to look forward to every week, I feel like it gave me something else to live for. Will a show as good as Game of Thrones ever grace our television screens again and have that action? That drama? That mysticism? I miss her. But thanks to Black Twitter GoT will live on through these memes that will go down in history as some of the greats memes of all time. Period.


Nikki Wolff — Makeup Artist

I still beat myself up to this day for taking so long to get into GoT, I didn’t watch seasons 1-7 in full until last November. I had tried to watch back when season 4-5 ended but I got sidetracked as always because I have a bit of a low attention span with tv shows. Once I stop, I forget about it completely. And the crazy part is I don’t do that because the show isn’t good, I really just be forgetting about shit. Season 8 of GoT was a huge let down but it didn’t stop me or any of the rest of the fandom from tuning in every Sunday night, it was a weekly event. I genuinely miss having that epic event to look forward to every week, I feel like it gave me something else to live for. Will a show as good as Game of Thrones ever grace our television screens again and have that action? That drama? That mysticism? I miss her. But thanks to Black Twitter GoT will live on through these memes that will go down in history as some of the greats memes of all time. Period.


These photographs were taken by Terry Scott here in Philly in the 70s and 80s, and it got me thinking about photography and how we continue to document black people in their daily lives, but something about it doesn’t feel the same anymore. When I’m riding around Philly these days, I don’t see this kind of kinship and joy anymore, I haven’t since I was a kid. I probably sound like those annoying millennials who romanticize the past and I don’t give two shits to be honest. There’s a kind of close-knit community that we as Black people used to have with one another out of both necessity and love that’s dissolved over the years for an array of reasons. To me, Philly has lost its charm and is being gentrified so quickly that I feel like there isn’t anything we can do about it. It feels like I’m losing my home and I’ve lost my people along the way, this city just ain’t the same to me anymore and I hate to see it. Literally.

But I love this IG account because I love seeing candid photos of Black people just living their life, being happy, being Black without having to yell it from their rooftops and convince everybody how Black they are, because that’s corny and annoying as fuck. Niggas was just doing them, trying to make a living, enjoying each others company, and the best part is that they knew their existence was all the proof they needed for their Blackness. There’s no contrived model-esque poses while doing everyday things. I like seeing people in their element because you can see their true nature, for better or worse. I love seeing behind the scenes photos of films, music videos, etc. and seeing people in their natural demeanor, in their essence. Realizing all of this has made me want to buy a camera, probably a Fujifilm Instax as a starter, and take photographs of my friends and family more often to capture the moment. I’m gonna be the person taking pictures of everyone when they least expect it and they’ll probably hate the results because they weren’t aware of being photographed and weren’t able to put on a facade for the lens, but that’s the point.


Killing Eve

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My latest and greatest obsession that I recently wrote about, this show reminds me of an interracial queer version of The Fall with Gillian Anderson and Jamie Dornan. Both shows feature a female cop/detective/whatever you wanna call them, who’s trying to track down a sadistic killer who has a thing for brunettes, quietly falling in love with them in the process as they become fascinated with their person of interest and how they operate. Killing Eve is more fun though because it incorporates a good amount of humor, thanks to Eve’s (Sandra Oh) awkwardness as a result of her workaholic nature, and Villanelle’s childlike nature that shines as a result of her being a psychopath. Eve’s hunt for Villanelle becomes a game of cat and mouse mixed with sexual curiously as they chase one another throughout the continent of Europe, from Vienna to Paris to Russia, taking you on a dangerous jet setting journey for survival and justice. It’s really a bit of an adrenaline rush once you get attached to the show, and I’m a crackhead so I will be starting and catching up on season 2 this week. I’ll finish it in one day like I did with season 1.


Pre-Colonial African Photos

I’ve temporarily given up on my hair because 1) It’s hot 2) waves of depression keep me paralyzed 3) I generally just don’t have the patience and energy this time of year for daily maintenance of my hair. It’s a lot, I get annoyed at the thought of having to wash my hair lately, I just can’t. The tenuous nature of natural hair and the complicated routines and do’s and don’ts we’ve come up with for our hair has really made me curious about how our ancestors cared for their hair without having the tools and products that we do now. They were clearly able to grow and maintain beautiful long hair while sporting intricate, neat hairstyles that didn’t require weave or heat styling to achieve said look. I for one would not mind going extremely old school, primitive even, with my approach to hair care. I do plan on getting braids soon and keeping my hair braided for at least a year, just to see what happens. I’m going to be busy when I go back to school with a new job and the last thing I ever want to worry about is my hair.

Thinking about it now, I often get anxiety when I think about styling my hair because I know for Black women, hairstyling can often depend on how you get treated by others in this world and how you’re perceived. Though I don’t put much thought into other’s opinions and views about me these days, I still want to look good for myself so that I can feel comfortable throughout the day. I think I’m going to take a fashion approach to my hair and create a signature hairstyle for myself, just like I would with a personal uniform. A hairstyle that I look great in, is easy to do, healthy for my hair, and is appropriate for every occasion. Let the experimenting begin.


Newspapers

I wish I could get all the relevant news that I needed in one place. I’m tired of having to jump from website to website on my phone to read 10 different articles, and the local newspaper is boring as hell to keep it a bean. Being the tech-addicted oldhead that I am, I will always prefer physical, paper copies of written work over digital anything. Having something to read that’s tangible is less distracting than being on a device where I keep getting interrupted by notifications and could impulsively open up social media if I wanted to, I just don’t have the self-control for it. I feel like newspaper are a dying art, as are all things print. I’m also a bit of a hoarder and eventually want to get into archiving things, like articles and newspapers . Will we make newspapers great again or are they dead for good?! Once I figure out how to make a modern, tasteful, engaging newspaper it’s over for the digital platform girls.


Rinny Riot

If I could have every single on of her graphics as a poster on my bedroom wall, I would be the happiest girl ever. The genius of her work is that she includes millennial humor in regards to dating, mental health, feminism, etc. while showcasing classic Black beauty, delivering dry humor with the brightest of smiles to rival the mixed signals these niggas be giving us.

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